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I’m Sorry Is No Longer Good Enough

Written by Josh Collins. Posted in Community, Leadership

I often communicate about the power of our words. Words, both written and spoken, posses a raw innate power to dramatically alter the course of any outcome for good and bad. History provides us with some pretty clear pictures of such instances. Roosevelt’s speech after the Pearl Harbor attack, JFK’s inaugural address, the movie The King’s Speech, and Martin Luther King Jr’s I have a dream speech are just a few examples that continue to gift us with images and memories of times both triumphant and harrowing.

Additionally, it’s easy to weaponize our words, wounding others with them and even easier to weaponize the lack of our words, inflicting a whole different kind of injury.

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Consider these 2 exercises.

First, try to remember back to the first time someone you loved dearly told you they loved you back. Think about how that felt? Try to remember the details. Where were you? What were you wearing? What were the sights, sounds and smells? I bet you can remember every little thing about that experience.

Second, think back to a moment when you were wounded by someone’s words. Something may have happened and you just needed to be reminded of your worth. You just needed to be told you were loved or gently reminded that everything would be ok. Ask yourself the same questions above. What stands out to you from this memory?

Moments and experiences like these create markers in our lives. Those markers are what shape our stories and give us clues into our own hearts.

This is precisely why I no longer say the words “I’m sorry” when seeking forgiveness.

And lets face it, I’m a guy and have to do this often! Too often I’m afraid.

The words “I’m sorry” are far to easy to say. They carry almost no weight and frankly cost very little to say. We say we’re sorry when we bump into someone in a mall or when we accidentally get in someone’s way. We say we’re sorry when we forget to hold the door open for the person who sneaks in behind us, or when we laugh out loud in a library. We say we’re sorry to the trite and trivial but when we find ourselves needing to ask forgiveness, the words “I’m sorry” simply just aren’t enough.

Think about it this way.

You’ve been crushed. Your heart is in pain and someone has just wounded you dearly. What would you rather hear in that place; “I’m sorry” or “I need your forgiveness, would you forgive me?”

The words “Forgive Me” carry a whole different weight. They invoke a different context, a disarming context. They communicate an understanding of what was made wrong, and a need for it to be made right. Healing is made possible because of this.

And wouldn’t you rather be a part of the healing process instead of hindering it?

Tim Keller writes an awesome article on Forgiveness, Healing and Reconciliation here. I won’t try to summarize it because I could never come close to do that well, but I love how he says it comes at a cost and is at the very heart of what it means to be a christian.

We all make mistakes. We all cross boundaries. We all hurt and wound others with our words, but next time try being intentional and using the words “forgive me” instead of “I’m sorry” and see what happens.

What do you find yourself saying more often “I’m sorry” or “Forgive me?” What would you rather hear?

Share in the comments below!


Posted on: July 2, 2013

Creating the Awesome Adventure

Written by Josh Collins. Posted in Experience

I have spent a lot of time lately on the metaphor of Father and the images of Fathers. I think part of it is because, there is something missing from my story due to the absence of an earthly father. The other part is because I am a father, and nothing gives me more joy than that role!

This past weekend, I took my daughter on an adventure.

It was just the two of us, all day on Saturday, intentionally engaged in a story that she will never forget.

Together, we created an Awesome Adventure!

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The event was called Father’s Delight and was put on by some very close friends of mine who lead a ministry called Abba’s Way. They have a similar retreat weekend for Fathers and Sons called Father’s Heart. I highly recommend them both!

The reality is future generations need more intentional Fathering, and Abba’s Way delivers that through their ministry.

With Story and Fairy Tales being the main theme for the all day retreat, Molly and I engaged in some horseback riding, slayed some Cyclops, and climbed some towers and other high ropes course type activities. She got to pick what we did with very little input from me, and by the half way mark, she pulled me aside, looked intently in my eyes, and said, “Dad, this is best day ever!” I said, “Really?” And she said, “yep, even better than the beach!”

Even typing out those words now, brings tears to my eyes!

We ended the evening in a beautiful Father/Daughter Dinner and Dance accompanied by a powerful affirmation ceremony, where I got to speak over Molly and pronounce her as the Father’s Delight she is!

Words on a blog simply aren’t enough to describe the power of that moment!

I did, however, manage to capture the whole thing on video, and I plan on editing it down and posting that later.

The fruit of the seeds planted this past weekend, I have no doubt, will take root and continue to reproduce for the rest of her life.

And that is precisely why it was so important.

I love the image of the card above. This was what she presented me in exchange for the rose I presented her at the dance. You can see by her writing “DAD” in all caps, the special place I have in her heart. It’s as if there is this kind of unspoken, unnamed attention given, that declares the title “DAD” as being significant and more important than all the other words there.

That right there is why the role of Father means more to me, than anything else.

I recently received this list below of ways a Father teaches and it’s become a very special reminder, not just how I love and teach my kids, but more importantly, how The Father, teaches and loves me!

What A Father Teaches

  •   He teaches kindness by being thoughtful and gracious even at home.
  •   He teaches patience by being gentle and understanding over and over.
  •   He teaches honesty by keeping his promises to his family even when it costs.
  •   He teaches courage by living unafraid with faith, in all circumstances.
  •   He teaches justice by being fair and dealing equally with everyone.
  •   He teaches obedience to God’s Word by precept and example as he reads and prays daily with his family.
  •   He teaches love for God and His Church as he takes his family regularly to all the services.
  •   His steps are important because others follow.

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Would you add anything to this list above?

If you had to write out a card like the one above for your father, what would it say?

Or better yet, if you had to write out a message on a card like the one above, to your Heavenly Father, what would you say?

Share in the comments below!

Posted on: June 10, 2013

Worship Wednesday: Need A Lift?

Written by Josh Collins. Posted in Worship Wednesday

All of us from time to time need to be intentional in making time to recharge our batteries. For some this is a weekend retreat, for others its a month long sabbatical. In either case, the process of getting away, of retreating can provide us with the necessary margin to reframe and reconnect.

One of Worship Wednesday’s goals is to help us all reframe things in order that we can major on the majors and minor on the minors, as “they” say.

I have found time and time again, that by getting back to basics, back to the creative order of life, I then can see and focus more clearly, and my creativity flows more freely.

That’s where today’s Worship Wednesday post takes us.

Passion City Church in Atlanta, is hosting this amazing experience and I know from the collective that will be gathered that it will be nothing short of AWESOME! Not to mention, Matt Redman’s new album will be recorded live!

This could just be the thing you’ve needed to jump-start you into that next season of life. Or perhaps you’re a worship leader somewhere, that has been needing to refresh and recharge.

Lift is going to be awesome! And you definitely should make every effort to attend. It’s very affordable and I’ve been around these guys enough to know, they don’t do anything half way. It’s either awesome or not at all!

Question for you:

Because we were made to worship, how often do you set aside time to do just that? I’m not talking about an appearance somewhere Sunday mornings. How often are you intentional about making time for worship?

Share your thoughts below!

Posted on: April 17, 2013

The Power of Using Our Words to Love Others

Written by Josh Collins. Posted in Community, Leadership

I thought I would begin this week thinking about the theme of community and loving others well.

I haven’t always done that, and its been those closest to me that end up hurt the most.

One thing I have learned along the way though, is that the power of our words and more importantly the power of our words when used to love and encourage others well can change everything!

I came across this video yesterday and was brought to tears.  I just love whats going on. I’m not talking about the coolness factor or hipster vibe, but rather, I’m talking about people loving people and using their voices to complement one another.

It’s just beautiful! Take a look…

I love the father in there who starts off by saying, “the compliment that I’m going to give you today, that I’ve never given you before…”

How cool is that?

This just proves once again, there is power in our words and power in the awesome experience!

Now let me ask you a question.

Do you do this for others?

Do you find the time, or rather do you make the time to be intentional and compliment, encourage, and love those around you?

Maybe its time to start.

Posted on: March 18, 2013

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