Have you ever stared down some specific fear about some specific goal you’re trying to accomplish and have finally been able to muster the courage to ask for help, only to receive a litany of excuses or rather no response at all?
Or perhaps you’re attempting to build some kind of team for an event or specific mission, and you just can’t seem to gain any traction. People just aren’t responding the way you’d hope they would.
Guess what, you’re not alone!
I’ve seen this over and over again through out the years, whether it’s an artist or writer launching a new project or an NPO raising funds.
Recently I was sharing with a friend some of what I’m daring to launch, and I was surprised by his encouragement. I think that I had already began to believe he would just be another one of those voices to not respond, or to give an excuse as to why he didn’t have the time. But one of the things that has stuck with me the most, was his challenge to search and align myself with people of peace.
According to his definition, a person of peace is someone that jumps at the opportunity to serve and help, or to come along side you in any endeavor not asking what’s in it for them. People of peace tend to attract other people of peace. And that is a beautiful thing.
What I’ve began to notice is that a person of peace posses 3 basic qualities.
- They’re open to new things, not threatened by others.
- They invite relationship and community.
- They are generous in their support.
Because we live in a what’s in it for me culture, with pressure that says in order to appear successful, you must install gatekeepers at every outpost. Then Fear tells you that you have to protect what you have, and protect your “art.” This creates a gravitational pull that will always mislead you towards exclusion rather than inclusion.
The shift that I’ve noticed in me, as I have been thinking about this, is not just that I’m actively looking to align myself with people who exhibit these characteristics, but rather, I’m becoming one myself.
And really, isn’t that the point. Kind of reminds me of the old saying, “be a friend in order to make a friend.”
Here’s a question for you:
Do these characteristics describe you? Are you a person of peace? Do you know someone who is?
Share your thoughts in the comments below!