Have you ever been in a situation or circumstance where you felt completely stuck? Like you truly had no options. You’re sitting there feeling like there is no hope, and the voices of fear are getting louder and louder.
Are you familiar with that place?
The truth is most of us are. In fact most of us tend to just camp out in that place for so long that our world actually becomes pretty small. It starts to feel like we’re grasping at straws searching for answers. And eventually our hearts become numb to the world around us, preventing us from connecting or engaging in anything with anyone.
The issue for most of us when we get stuck in these places is that we simply are not asking the right questions.
One of the best ways I’ve learned how to ask the right questions is through the crucible of community. It never fails that in the times when I feel like I have no options and can’t see very clearly, the reframing voices of my community help me ask the right questions, leading me to the right answers.
But searching for those answers isn’t as simple as shaking a magic 8 ball and flipping it over to see the result. Finding the right answers starts with asking the right questions.
One of my favorite authors, Frederick Buechner, writes about this in his book Wishful Thinking. I love his list of questions to ask below.
Have you wept at anything during the past year?
Has your heart beat faster at the sight of young beauty?
Have you thought seriously about the fact that someday you are going to die?
More often than not do you really listen when people are speaking to you instead of just waiting for your turn to speak?
Is there anybody you know in whose place, if one of you had to suffer great pain, you would volunteer yourself?
If your answer to all or most of these questions is No, the chances are that you’re dead.
Asking the right questions is important if we’re going to discover the right answers. And asking the right questions will always lead us to create the awesome!
The beauty to be found there is this:
You are not alone!
Do you spend much time asking questions, or merely just suggesting you have answers?
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